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Shouldn’t ‘time off’ be called ‘time on’?

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Don’t think I’ve ever meditated in a nicer, more calming, spot than I did this summer in beautiful Croatia. I wanted to write something about taking time off etc. and wasn’t sure whether to spell this with one f or two (okay, so I haven’t had coffee just yet..).
This is what The Google presented to me: “a period of time when you do not work because of illness or holidays, or because your employer has given you permission to do something else: take/have time off. One in five employees admits to taking time off because of stress.”
What I wanted to write about is something I notice the most when I take time ‘off’; and that is, how brainwashed we are.. why is it called ‘time off’? If anything, it should be called ‘time on’ because most of us power through days hardly remembering what we had for lunch. Truth be told, it took me two days for sure to slow down to this level of relaxation but come on.. like life is about work and some weeks (if you’re very ‘lucky’) where you get to recover??
We’re taught we should face reality. We’re taught we can’t have a win-win. There’s always some kind of suffering that we have to endure.. and as I’m also still trying to unlearn many things I was taught (for example by a school system that is not created to bring out the best in you, go figure..), I do notice that being a human being rather than a human doing (on the go 24/7) always always always connects me to this inner knowing. It’s very soothing. Your inner sat nav knooows what we’re fed is a non truth plenty of times.
Ask yourself what beliefs you’ve started to believe? And whose agenda may benefit from this?
I’m living proof that you don’t need a stable, happy and supportive childhood to get to being a stable, happy and able to support adult. I also belief in things I’d like to achieve and always try to let go of the how. The how is up to Universe. It can provide in ways we literally can’t even dream of.
And yes, I’m writing this from a very privileged place. More work for years to come than I’ll be able to take on, healthy, sitting on this beautiful rock in a beautiful part of the world.. but is this privilege, really? Or maybe partially also a bit (big bit ) of ‘just’ believing life can be and is absolutely amazing, ups and downs included.

The serious business of play

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“The serious business of play: The COVID-19 pandemic is an opportunity to encourage unstructured play and promote children’s healthy development, psychologists say.”
“Encourage “pretend play: Unlike board or card games, which have set rules to follow, pretend play allows children to come up with their own rules, games and stories. Pretend play that helps children develop their imaginations, hone their creativity and learn how to amuse themselves is key, says Russ. While pretend play may involve dolls, action figures, art supplies or blocks, it can also be as simple as couch cushions and blankets that become a fort, pots and pans that become musical instruments and natural materials like branches and pinecones that become parts of imaginary worlds. “That helps the child develop the ability to see lots of different uses for things,” says Russ. “You don’t need expensive toys.”
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Company coaching

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A worldwide shift in awareness of the importance of not only physical health, but also mental health, is taking place. One of the silver linings of the pandemic we currently find ourselves in. And with this shift, a growing number of (global) companies and organisations are realising they, too, need to ‘up’ the care for their staff.

Over the past two months, I’ve been offering company coaching, discussing how COVID-19 basically turns us all inside out (physically as well as emotionally). I’ve been offering tips and tricks on how to provide ourselves with a lot more TLC, whether this is aimed at the deeper layers or just for the day-to-day ‘maintenance’ of our bio-computer.

I am loving the fact that, using the amazing technology available to us, these sessions can reach up to hundreds of people at the same time. And the feedback has been out of this world, only making it very clear how much this is a necessity (and understandingly so). My aim is to continue to normalise this type of support. It’s all interconnected. Mind, body and spirit. And if we only focus on one aspect, we truly are missing the bigger -and ever so important- picture.

Perhaps the following tips and tricks can support you and your family. They’re not expensive and can be done within minutes, yet make a massive difference and giving your system a break, a hug from the inside so to speak.. and that’s exactly how we built our resilience. By doing that, we tap into our power and can deal with pretty much anything that comes our way, which comes in pretty handy in times like these.

An epsom salt foot bath: the magnesium in the epsom salt calms your nervous system down (activating the parasympathetic rest and digest nervous system and cooling the jets of the fight or flight sympathetic nervous system) and the soles of your feet are really good at absorbing these goodies. Just make sure you drink enough water so your kidneys can process the magnesium (and check with your GP before using it, in case you are not sure whether your kidneys can handle this).

Just taking a couple of deep breaths (4 seconds in through your nose, 4 out through your mouth) is very relaxing to our system as a whole and may make us more aware of the fact that we may have gotten used to breathing way up high, only to stress out our bodies. Please invite your kids to join, and ask them to bring their favourite plushy. By putting it on their tummy, they can see it go up and down and they too become more aware of the fact that breathing like this is very relaxing (since, they too, currently most likely experience more anxiety).

Ginger shots with lime: These are my little life savers every single day. A major boost for your immune system due to their anti inflammatory properties. You can either make them yourselves or be ‘lazy’ and buy them like I do 🙂 

Massaging your feet with oil before you go to bed: Our feet store a lot of tension and so by massaging them, this is released. It can be a wonderful bit of quality time for you and your partner or you and your kids as well. 

Since coffee can make us feel ‘antsy’, try putting some peppermint oil in a diffuser: It gives you the same pick-me-up without the caffeine shot and this perhaps negatively impacting your sleep later on.

Lastly, alcohol and depression as well as sugar and anxiety LOVE one another. Please be mindful of that.



Time To Talk COVID-19

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Hopefully, this message finds you in good health. No matter your age, location, professional background or family situation, the COVID-19 pandemic impacts us all. As human beings, most of us love predictability and are risk averse. All of this, we had to let go of in a matter of mere weeks. On top of that, we’re having to develop new work and home routines, whilst simultaneously becoming our kids’ teachers and keeping a very close eye on the beloved elderly in our lives. Not an easy task. It would only be a natural response to be somewhat shaken by this, in whatever way, shape or form.

Especially during these more taxing times, I intend to continue offering coaching sessions. Intakes are still conducted face-to-face, naturally speaking only when no one has any COVID-19 symptoms. Most sessions (including intakes), however, currently take place via video calls. Also, the so-called ‘walk & talks’ (very popular since my 2,5 year old Jack Russell Charlie joins me on most of them 😉 are still taking place, taking the 1,5 meter distance into account at all times. Please don’t hesitate to call or email me about the aforementioned. Take care and be safe. 


🥂Time To Celebrate🥂

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At 15 years old, I knew exactly what I wanted to do work-wise. And was very driven to get there. I’ve always wondered where this drive came from and have come to realise it’s a calling. I’m called to doing this. It would cost me way more effort not to go there, as I noticed in earlier times in my career where I couldn’t work the way I thought was best. Ethical, dedicated, caring and yes -even in this field- with lots of fun and humor.

Self-care is one of the ways in which the beautiful families I work with get to a more centered place and feel their true power, as well as all the possibilities that lie in front of them. All the wonderful options to choose from instead of their never-ending worries due to the ridiculous pressure put on them by a lot of outside sources. And I think my angel mama was in on this. Me teaching others about self-care has kept me on a thriving path too. Well played, mama!

10 years ago today I registered my business-baby at the Chamber of Commerce. It’s been quite the ride since then. 5 years ago I quit my last part-time job as a school psychologist and started working for my practice full-time. I feel blessed beyond words and am eternally grateful for the trust and openness provided to me by the families I get to work with.

And like the tree in the logo, it’s an ever growing adventure. Slowly but surely I’m shifting to writing as much as coaching one-on-one. I’d like to share my message with a bigger audience and look forward to all the ways in which this is going to take place.


Goed nieuws!! Kleutertoetsen verdwijnen definitief!

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“Het kabinet zegt dat het niet bij de ontwikkeling van kleuters past om met schoolse toetsen te meten hoe ze ervoor staan. “Kleuters ontwikkelen zich spelenderwijs en in sprongen; een toets met een opgavenboekje, pen en papier in de schoolbanken doet daar geen recht aan”, vindt minister Slob.”




We’re all born creative geniuses..

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On a daily basis, I get to work with the most brilliant, funny and loving kids, who feel they’re pretty much worthless. My main aim is to help them remember who they truly are, which in my opinion is the only way to truly empower them. Luckily they pick up on this fairly quickly since their gut feeling knows it’s right, but it’s sad to say the least for this to be necessary.

The school system has become a pressure cooker, not only diminishing the kids’ ability to be the magical creative beings that they are, but stressing them out so much that they’re more lost than ever.. #timetowakeup #writingmyfirstbookonstufflikethisaswespeak

“And for those who question the consistency of these results — or think they may be isolated incidences — these results have actually been replicated more than a million times, reports Gavin Nascimento whose article first alerted me to this amazing study and its shocking implication: that the school system, our education, robs us of our creative genius.”

“The reasoning for this is not too difficult to apprehend; school, as we plainly call it, is an institution that has historically been put in place to ultimately serve the wants of the ruling class, not the common people.”

“In order for the so-called elite to maintain their lavish life styles of overt luxury — where they contribute the least but enjoy the most — they understand that children must be dumbed down and brainwashed to accept (and even serve) their rapacious system of artificial scarcity, unending exploitation, and incessant war,” writes Nascimento.”

Time To Talk Welcomes Puppy Charlie!

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Very proud and happy to introduce my new work buddy Charlie, born September 5th. Charlie will accompany me to most of the child coaching sessions, either to go on a walk, since this can facilitate talking in major ways, or to comfort the child whilst being asleep. Currently Charlie is attending puppy training weekly, which will be followed by two additional training trajectories.

The positive impact he’s already had at just 13 weeks old is incredible.. or is it? 

Photo credit: Leontien Ultzen.


Ja, opvoeden begint al rond de 9 maanden: 7 tips van psycholoog Carolina

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Vers van de pers! Geïnterviewd door Sanny Visser (freelance copywriter en journalist) i.v.m. haar blog voor Prénatal. Enjoy! #timetotalk#opvoeding #babies #prenatal

“En opeens is je kleintje baby-af: je dreumes kruipt, staat en loopt. Leuk, maar ook uitdagend, want hij gaat grenzen opzoeken. Dus eh, dat opvoeden, moet je daar nu al mee beginnen? En hoe pak je dat aan bij kleine hummels? Onderwijs- en ontwikkelingspsycholoog Carolina Sleijffers heeft tips!”


Vlog #4: Opvoeden van, jawel, baby’s!

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Happy Mother’s Day! Laat je vandaag extra verwennen en doe dat de rest van het jaar ook vooral zelf! #zelfzorg #cantpourfromanemptycup#mommyproof

Vlog #4 “EXPERT AAN HET WOORD | Drs. Carolina Sleijffers: Onze #Kinderpsycholoog op #MommyProofTV . Carolina bespreekt tijdens deze nieuwe aflevering van #ExpertAanHetWoord hét onderwerp waar iedere ouder op den duur tegenaan loopt: #Opvoeden. Want wanneer begin je hiermee? Zijn er dingen die je tijdens je zwangerschap al met je partner kunt bespreken? En welk speelgoed raadt Carolina bijvoorbeeld aan? Bekijk het nu op MommyProof.TV!”

(Bron: MommyProof.TV)